Number 1 Marriage Problem
| What is the number 1 marriage problem? Some people may say that the number one problem in a marriage is the lack of communication, being dishonest, or not being attentive to your spouse. |
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However, I personally believe that the real number one problem in marriage is “Selfishness”. By definition, Selfishness means “Seeking one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well being without regard of others.”
Lack of communication is only the fruit of selfishness. Selfishness leads to many other serious issues such as emotional infidelity, lack of sexual intimacy, abusive marriage, and adultery.
How do you fix marriage problems?
The first step is to recognize that there is a problem in your marriage. It is important to start thinking about your spouse more than yourself. Always put them before you. A lot of people expect their significant other to change for them. Only when other people are nice to them, they will be nice back. The problem with that is you can not control other people’s behavior. You only have the power to change your own. The chance is your partner will see the change in you, and he/she will reciprocate back with the same feeling. Here are few things that you might want to avoid.
The Blame Game: Sometimes it does not matter who is right or wrong. Avoid pointing out who is at fault.
Never Forgive or Forget: Some people just can’t never let go of their spouse fault. Every time there is a fight, they just have to bring up the old issues. It is not healthy in a relationship.
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